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Chinese New Year

Blessed & Happy Lunar New Year to all!

This holiday has been enjoyable and a little too long for me as I was on medical leave last Thursday and company was off on Friday so I had a grand total of six non-working days.  :x

This year is the last year that I will be celebrating the Chinese New Year as a single.  For the past 2 days, I have been visiting relatives with Nat.  For some reason, this New Year felt different from the recent years.  

Upon arriving at adulthood, I always question why do I have to celebrate the occasion.  (Just for your information, my nuclear family do not do much house visiting but we do have our usual reunion dinner.)  Therefore, to me, the CNY holiday is a time for me to enjoy with friends or alone.  Before I embarked on my house visiting this year, there was some inertia for me to urge myself to go around meeting people I do not know (or hardly know).  As an introvert, sometimes I'm not sure how to begin conversations (though a part of me loves getting to know people).  Then there were imaginations that I will have some meaningless small talks that do not interest me.  But most importantly, I question, why do we usually only visit our relations once per year?  This makes relationships very distant and surface.  I know that each family unit is unique and that wherever human dwells, conflict is likely to abound.  However, I really wish to connect more with my extended family.

My last CNY visit ended yesterday and on a sweet note.  I had a good time getting to know Nat's relations.  Maybe what is really needed is just a bit more effort to get to know others. :)

Readers, perhaps you have an aunty who always ask if you have found a partner or an uncle who seems to be commenting that you have grown taller (when you have cease puberty) every year.  Maybe the next time you meet them, get to know them a little.

Love,
Pam



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