Skip to main content

Being positive :)

2011 has been a great year for me!

Today as I was reading "Be Excellent at Anything", I learnt a new term called "realistic optimism". I find it rather interesting as I have been reading a lot of self-help books which taught me to be positive in every situation. However, there are many times in my life which I found utterly hard to be positive. For instance, if I want for myself to be the fastest Singaporean female marathon runner within 2 years (which is really unrealistic). I am not stating that it is something absolutely impossible but that would mean I need very disciplined training immediately. It may not be feasible because I have other priorities to attend to therefore I am not able to entirely focus on this particular goal. Realistic optimism in my opinion, is to be humble and set rational means to achieve desired outcome. The author continued to relate that, "more commonly, and often unconsciously, we look to confirm what we already believe - by telling ourselves stories that match our preconceptions." This is very true because as a Christian I do not fully understand certain scriptures and the meaning but when I questioned and received answers from other Christians; though not completely certain of their replies, I leave it to God to reveal to me or give the benefit of doubt. Whereas, if I have queries for people with other beliefs and am at doubt, I tend to think to myself they may not be right. Why is that so? It's funny how the mind works that it'll direct you to whichever that will make you feel good or at ease.

What is meant to be on my entry today is Nat's Kong Kong. Though I may not have not known Nat's relations for a long time now, I feel like a part of his family. I do not know my grandparents personally as they passed on before I was born and I always hope to have known them. Each time I spent with Nat's grandparents and mother, I feel closer to them. It's a good feeling. Likewise, for my own parents, I feel that it is more important to spend time with them now that I am working and have other things to juggle with.

Yesterday when I visited Nat's Kong Kong, he reminded me a few things - be positive no matter what your circumstance may be and when you are happy, you make the people around you happy. :)

The flow of this entry may be a little strange as I am typing it from my iPhone but what I am trying to say is the new year always brings forth new hope and whether we are very positive or not, we should learn how to look at the bright side but not unrealistically.

Love,
Pam Petite



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Honouring Mr Lee Kuan Yew

23 Mar 2015: While getting ready for work, Nat told me that Mr Lee Kuan Yew has passed on. I didn't expect the multitude of sadness that followed. Found out that Prime Minister Mr Lee Hsien Loong would be addressing Singaporeans on his father's death at 8am and my heart went out to him. As I was watching his address, I am reminded that no matter who he is, he is still his father's son. When I see the profile and cover pictures of many of my friends changed into mono colours, I see unity and appreciation. By human standards perhaps we may debate about whether he is a good leader, but I believe he was called to serve with the others when Singapore really needed one. RIP Mr Lee Kuan Yew.
Post a Comment
Read more
Stubbles + Dreadlocks = My Kinda Guy as at 21st Dec '09 I guess this statement is pretty true. It took me about 3-4 years to decide to tell him that I still love him... Telling him was just to let him know my feelings towards him... Months later we got together, it felt strange because I thought fate has departed from us. Destiny must have heard my cry and let me have a second go at this love. Unfortunately, now we're once again apart from each other. Sometimes I felt that I held on to the memories with him so tight because he was my first love. Many times I have thought myself to be a fool and felt that things have been a little unfair. He was my dream guy and I don't think I was ever his dream girl. After all, I was not his first love. Moreover, I don't have much to offer. Day after day, I watch memories play over my brain's eye, uncertain to feel remorseful or to tell myself to move on... Yeap, I know it has been a while now. God just help me. Pam Petite
Post a Comment
Read more

A Fall

Dear Blog, I just had a fall while running in my flat-heeled office shoes. I didn't feel embarrassed dropping flat on the floor. Instead, I felt a growing pain from both my knees. My brain signaled for my legs to walk and soon I reached my destination with blood-crying knees. Why was I so careless? Was browsing through my past entries, time has passed and well, a lot more to improve on in my life. Occasionally, I wish to say, be contented. However, I can't. Because it simply is not good enough. I guess, that's what a twenty something should be contemplating. After all, only about a quarter of our lives is gone. Had been playing RISK board game with my honey on 2 consecutive Sundays. This game taught me a couple of lessons:- (a) Nobody is declared the winner unless the game ceases, by either party surrendering or by conquering the lands of your opponent; (b) Even if you are losing huge armies, it doesn't mean you are the loser; (small can fight big) (c) Take it easy! I...
Post a Comment
Read more