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Being positive :)

2011 has been a great year for me!

Today as I was reading "Be Excellent at Anything", I learnt a new term called "realistic optimism". I find it rather interesting as I have been reading a lot of self-help books which taught me to be positive in every situation. However, there are many times in my life which I found utterly hard to be positive. For instance, if I want for myself to be the fastest Singaporean female marathon runner within 2 years (which is really unrealistic). I am not stating that it is something absolutely impossible but that would mean I need very disciplined training immediately. It may not be feasible because I have other priorities to attend to therefore I am not able to entirely focus on this particular goal. Realistic optimism in my opinion, is to be humble and set rational means to achieve desired outcome. The author continued to relate that, "more commonly, and often unconsciously, we look to confirm what we already believe - by telling ourselves stories that match our preconceptions." This is very true because as a Christian I do not fully understand certain scriptures and the meaning but when I questioned and received answers from other Christians; though not completely certain of their replies, I leave it to God to reveal to me or give the benefit of doubt. Whereas, if I have queries for people with other beliefs and am at doubt, I tend to think to myself they may not be right. Why is that so? It's funny how the mind works that it'll direct you to whichever that will make you feel good or at ease.

What is meant to be on my entry today is Nat's Kong Kong. Though I may not have not known Nat's relations for a long time now, I feel like a part of his family. I do not know my grandparents personally as they passed on before I was born and I always hope to have known them. Each time I spent with Nat's grandparents and mother, I feel closer to them. It's a good feeling. Likewise, for my own parents, I feel that it is more important to spend time with them now that I am working and have other things to juggle with.

Yesterday when I visited Nat's Kong Kong, he reminded me a few things - be positive no matter what your circumstance may be and when you are happy, you make the people around you happy. :)

The flow of this entry may be a little strange as I am typing it from my iPhone but what I am trying to say is the new year always brings forth new hope and whether we are very positive or not, we should learn how to look at the bright side but not unrealistically.

Love,
Pam Petite



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