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About ADAM

Would you say that Singapore is a male-centric society?  As much as I would like to differ and argue that our society is a balanced society, I'm afraid it is not.  Therefore, we have AWARE Singapore’s leading gender equality advocacy group.  However, I knew that there are certain laws that make men the victims hence, I thought it will be a good idea to have a group to support men in times of crisis.  No VWOs, NPOs and NGOs in Singapore came to my mind until I was researching and I found ADAM.  Though essentially what ADAM does is not identical to AWARE but at least there is an avenue for men to seek some counsel. 

It may be true that men do not openly seek help but men are human beings too, they face problems in life and should know that looking for help and expressing their emotions; ie. crying is not a sign of weakness.  While I do not know what are the preferred methods to help men in crisis but at least for Venusians it is having someone to hear them out.  Perhaps some studies can be done to develop the preferred method for men to express themselves when in trouble (I have not done any research/reading on this yet).

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